Love, Batter, and Vulcans
Thursday, February 15, 2007 at 11:32AM Love, Batter, and Vulcans
Griddle cakes, pancakes, hot cakes, flapjacks;
Why are there four names for grilled batter and only one word for love?
-George Carlin
A little while back I found myself typing away – and thinking - at IHOP’s at 12:30am. Call my priorities a little messed up but grilled batter is more meaningful than finding a guy right now. It’s not that I don’t care, but it’s clear that it is not God’s will at this time.
Thing is, it never fails. Every Valentine’s Day what do you see? Couples everywhere holding each other, kissing, and being moved by Hallmark teddy bears. But the only thing I find moving is my gag reflex. Call it bitterness, but I guess it’s just hard to relate. Can’t relate? Then I wonder, did I come from the planet of Vulcan?? Nah, I can’t be a Vulcan because Vulcans don’t get broken hearts or have any emotion really, and I’ve had my fair share of heart sickness. But I’m coming to find out that just like a $6 fruit bowl at IHOP’s, self-pity is a luxury I cannot afford. So what now?
See, for awhile I took my focus off the Bible and Jesus when I began questioning my faith. (I didn’t write for awhile, too, because I felt like a hypocrite) I don’t question my salvation just the relationship. Do I know the Lord? Is He my friend? Am I spiritual or “ritual”? But now I miss the One and Only Man in my life! Time to recommit; to redirect my focus.
I have felt that distinctive tugging at my heart when I think God wants me to drop the idea of dating for six months to a year and focus on loving Him, getting to know Him, and treating all men as brothers. Oh no – again? But now I know it’s God tugging me towards Him. And He writes the greatest love stories if we stop trying to grab the pen and scribble out our own. But, I’ve decided to take out a Singles ad – Gasp! What the…? No, guys, not that kind, GOSH! It goes like this:
Single Girl Seeks Risen Son of God
Someone to walk with, talk with, share my burdens, forgive me, love me just as I am. Seeks long-term relationship.
He is the Greatest! He meets us where we are. He loves us, fills our hearts with love, and teaches us how to love. He wrote us this giant valentine called the Bible – am I taking this too far? Yeah… Well, I look forward to this blossoming relationship, don’t you?
Fast-forward a week, around midnight, and I was back at IHOP’s but this time with five awesome singles – you know who you are! It was our SNAC after SNAC. We talked, laughed, texted, and had an all-around good time. Wouldn’t have it any other way!
Question of the Day: Do Vulcans really come from the planet of Vulcan?
Answer: If you know the answer, you are a nerd and probably spent Valentines Day alone – or at IHOP’s!
Submitted by Heather L. Barger
Reader Comments (4)
Great thoughts! and awesome writing. You are gifted in the "writing realm". Please keep it up. In regards to your thoughts, I wish we all could get a hold of that thought; then things with the Lord would be what they should be. I'm so glad to seeing the Lord working in your life!!
Love your ad! I'll take a wild guess and assume that the ad was answered. Your ad is a wonderful reminder to anyone who has neglected to seek their first love. It's easy to walk away from God and then become bitter about what you don't have especially when you look around and watch everyone getting what you want. The first step in embracing God's peace is recognizing His sweet voice as he draws us back. It's hard to hold on to the Lord when you have a death grip on your emotions. I am so glad that you have recognized your need for a continual relationship with the Lord and look forward to seeing your smiling face in church.
Mrs.Vickie
I enjoyed your blog. I am 33 and single, satisfied and sassy. :) I came to the realization a few years ago that the only MAN than can truly make me happy is Jesus, everyone else was 2nd best, if you know what I mean. I still feel the longing for the "earthly someone", yet it's not a consuming thought that I'm single and there must be something wrong with me since I'm not married with children. I'm excited about what God is doing in my life and encouraged that there are other single young ladies out there just as content in the Lord as I am. Even though I fail HIM, I'm glad HE loves me unconditionally and HIS love is forever, no earthly man can truly promise me that (well, other than my dad :)).
In Christ,
Christy
You did very nice with your post. You are an excellent writer. We have a Singles ministry in my Church, but there aren't many singles. There is my brother and I, and 5 others. And most of them rarely come. Two of them are boys, and three girls. So often, I have longed for a group that I can be in, where I may be able to find, "Mr. Right" but, I then am reminded that I am not supposed to be searching, God will lead me to Him. But, I do long to have the closeness I see in other singles groups.
Anyhow, I just had to comment that you did an excellent job writing. I enjoy writing, but don't have much of a reason to. But, someday, I will write a lot more.